Why parents should stop blaming themselves for how their kids turn out By: Yuko Munakata *

“For anyone who’s ever been a parent: Stop blaming yourself as if you’re in control of your child’s path. You have influence — but you don’t have control.

For anyone who’s ever been a child: Stop blaming your parents, or at least stop thinking you must be defined by them.

And stop blaming other parents. A recent survey of thousands of parents revealed that 90 percent of mothers and 85 percent of fathers feel judged, and close to half of them feel judged all or nearly all the time by people they know and by complete strangers. Even when parents do their best, you can’t satisfy everybody. There’s only so much time.”

*-Yuko Munakata PhD is a professor of psychology in the Center for Mind and Brain at the University of California, Davis.

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